This is a true story. Parental advisory for violent and emotionally charged content.
In April 2011, I boarded a flight with my daughter. We were going to visit my eldest daughter living in Australia. We had a layover in Los Angeles. On the Qantas flight in Los Angeles, I received an email from a friend in Israel. She reported that a doctor in Tel Aviv had murdered his girlfriend and then shot himself.
“I hope this has nothing to do with your friend.”
Why do you think it is that we never forget?
Riding hails us back to early childhood, when learning to ride is a project assigned to a parent night after night. How we feel secure feeling their hand on the back of the seat. How they scream with pride as we ride away from them, down the street, ALONE. Moving by our own power, free to wander.
Some of us, after learning to drive, abandon this activity, relegate it to the young. But there is no question, bike riding is here to stay.
So, a few months ago I shared my 12 goals for summer.
Want to know how I’m doing so far?
1. Learn to skip a stone
I totally did it! I skipped a stone! Many times. Unfortunately, any attempts to snap a picture to capture the moment were unsuccessful. You’ll have to trust me on this. My form needs work. Who knew there was a technique? It starts with finding a very flat stone. I was able to find flat stones along the shore of Lake Michigan quite easily. Then you need to crouch a bit, holding the stone with three fingers. You pretty much know if it’s going to happen the second it rolls off your fingers. Such a great feeling, but my constant practicing may have contributed to my nagging carpal tunnel syndrome (sigh).
“Everywhere you go, always take the weather with you,
Everywhere you go, always take the weather…”
– Crowded House
Have you noticed that as soon as the weather changes, humans try to shield themselves from it?
Initially everyone is out, car windows are wide open. A week or two later, every car that goes by has the windows rolled up. Restaurant outdoor patios, after the initial period of elation, sit empty as we choose ”inside please” to dine in the artificially cooled air. Dining areas inside are often far too cool, hence we bring a sweater. The other day I was sitting on the beach and a neighbor glided by me on the water, standing on her paddle board, her slight body glistening with sweat. She looked up at me and shouted “It’s so hot!” It never crossed her mind to jump in the water. Surely the water is too cold or too hot or too mucky or too something!
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Today I was asked an interesting question I’d like to share.
A patient asked me:
“Is there a such thing as broken heart syndrome?”
Broken heart syndrome is, sadly, a real malady. It is also known as Takotsubo cardiomyopathy. Takotsubo, a type of octopus trap (!), was first described in Japan in 1990. When someone suffers from an event that causes stress, it can take a toll on the heart. The stressor can be from any type of sudden news or confronting situation such as
- loss or illness of someone close – a relative, friend, pet
- intense fear – public speaking, while engaging in high risk sports
- severe pain
- domestic violence
- receiving bad news – such as a cancer diagnosis
- witnessing an accident
- sudden financial loss
- a surprise
Scientists believe that the event causes an increase in the “stress hormone” called adrenalin. Adrenalin causes the heart to overwork and eventually weaken, particularly the left ventricle. Clinically, it looks just like a heart attack. The patient complains of the typical symptoms of chest pain and shortness of breath. A complete work up to rule out a heart attack is needed, STAT! An EKG may show signs of a heart attack but in broken heart syndrome there are actually no blockages in the arteries surrounding the heart! Cardiac enzymes may increase, like in a heart attack, but the increase is small. Heart cells are merely “stunned”, they are not killed like in a heart attack.
The illness occurs almost exclusively in women, generally between the ages of 58-75. The good news is that it is reversible and most patients are better in one-two months. In rare cases it can be fatal, if the patient develops heart failure as a result of the weakness of the heart.
As humans we are very adaptable, but some situations are devastating to such a degree that, as we see, the heart can indeed be broken. No one should be alone while experiencing extreme physical and emotional stress. Even if the incident appears trivial and doesn’t warrant this degree of sadness, this is no time for judgement. There is no timeline for overcoming loss- so silly how we learned in medical school, one month of grieving for every year together- everyone is different. Be there, for as long as it takes.