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My Perfect Sunday Morning in an Imperfect World

Let me start by saying that pretty much every time I wear my Hunter boots, my day is already a 6. Love the clanging sound they make from the broken strap. They lighten up any outfit. So old school, sturdy and comfy.

 


I woke up early today after a late night flight home from Atlanta. I decided that if I’m going to watch football all day and night, I better get my ass moving before then. I splashed my face with water, made a quick cup of Lyons tea, tugged on my yoga pants and was out the door. I muddled my way through a yoga flow class, with the help a teacher with an exceptionally sexy, nurturing voice.

 


Next stop, the farmer’s market. Out go the corn and peaches, in come the pumpkins, apples and squash. With live music, gentle falling rain and earnest vendors, shopping at the market is one of the greatest simple pleasures on earth.

 


A Trader Joe’s stop was inevitable – no one has consistently been home at my house in weeks – when I say “there’s no food”, I mean there really is no food. Funny how my ‘year of no shopping’ has generalized to the supermarket too. I buy what I need. I don’t stock up.

 


Then home to throw together dinner for later – roasted vegetables. Place cut up veggies and a whole garlic in a layer on an baking pan lightly greased with olive oil. Top with drizzled olive oil, salt and pepper. Bake at 400 degrees until vegetables are just right (30-40 minutes). I eat it with a little tahini on top. I mix the tahini with lemon, a dash of soy sauce and olive oil. My cardiologist would approve.

 


Time for doppio espresso over ice as I take my seat in my woman cave. Maybe I’ll light a fire first. Can my team pull off a win? I’m trying to stay more calm and mindful during games – this is a big change for me. Can’t mess with my blood pressure like the old days.

Every minute of this day I am thankful and grateful.

These are a few of my favorite things. What is your idea of the perfect day?

Have a Lovely Weekend – Dream Crazy

This weekend I will be preparing for Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, which starts Sunday night. My sister is coming in from New York to attend services with my dad, mom and I. It also marks the start of my favorite season, football season. So don’t text or call me during games, unless you want to make me mad. Really mad.

 

Here are some suggestions for my readers from around the web this week…

 

Ozark started a second season on Netflix. Watch season 1 first.

 

This essay Why I Hope to Die at 75 – The Atlantic is a tough read, even cringe-worthy at times. It is written by Ezekiel J. Emanuel, an oncologist and bioethicist. There is something to be said about taking a pass on medical interventions that prolong life but reduce quality of life.

 

Check out my son’s new song, “Amy”:
https://open.spotify.com/track/5IC1hWxvXTyopP2Vgm2N33?si=86KrhgpTTQGalKeaN1-cmQ

 

Watch The Break (La Trêve), a French-language Belgian crime drama, my favorite genre.

 

This book was recommended to me, I just started it:

 

Wow, this: Why Aftercare is The BDSM Practice That Everyone Should Be Doing

 

Look up Tuscookany, cooking classes in Italy. A mother-daughter life-changing bonding trip. We may do another one…

 

Thanks to my friends who read newspapers every day and send me articles:

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/03/opinion/americans-are-terrible-at-small-talk.html

 

Vaccinate your kids, people! Cases are on the rise here too. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-45246049

 

Love this article: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/05/opinion/the-gift-of-menopause.html

 

Let’s learn from other countries, we are doing a terrible job here in the U.S.: https://nyti.ms/2Bysixz?smid=nytcore-ios-share

 

Only the Brits! https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-devon-45414022

 

Wishing everyone a sweet, happy, healthy year!

From my heart to yours,

Love+Medicine

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes


Aging is the most interesting thing in life.

Leonard Cohen


I am now in my 60s. I recognize new behaviors creeping up:

  1. I worry about falling more. I grab hold of my walking partner on icy or unsteady ground; I like the safe traction of the beach or lawns.
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  3. When going out, instead of trying to figure out what type of food I want I’m really thinking ‘which restaurant has the easiest parking’?

     

  4. I’ve had botox injections.
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Why We Need To talk About Sex

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The Pelvic Health Collaborative invited me to present a lecture about the importance of talking about sex with patients. I passionately believe it should be an integral part of an evaluation of an individuals’ overall health and well-being. Any discussion with adult patients tends to be site/disease specific, i.e., after prostate surgery or heart attack. But what about patients with Crohn’s disease, arthritis, anxiety or obesity that are not considered directly related to sex? Are we asking these patients about their sex lives? We need to be. Because everything can affect sex and sex can affect everything.

An article was published in the New York Times entitled “When Did Porn Become Sex Ed?” Kids are not talking to their parents, their friends, or their doctors, so they turn to the Internet. The access is so easy and anonymous – straight from the smart phone. This is where they are learning how it is done. Is it any wonder performance anxiety is on the rise? What happens to expectations after watching internet porn? While some strides were made during the last administration in promoting comprehensive sex education, it was removed from the 2018 federal budget.

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