Sociology and The Lemon Bar

Yesterday there was a recipe for lemon bars in the New York Times. Anyone who knows me fairly well knows how much I love lemon bars. I am always trying to find new recipes to make them just right. They are my first choice in a bakery. It is not easy to get the crust perfect and the filling balanced between sweet and sour. The perfect lemon bar is very elusive and a work of poetic art.

Several people saw this article and messaged me about it yesterday. What struck me was the thought involved. That someone would see this, think of me and act on it by sending me the link. The more technologically-challenged just let me know about the article, leaving me to look it up because they don’t know how to send a link.

This simple act of selflessness often goes unnoticed. Something as little as tagging someone in a Facebook post or messaging about an article shows the bright side of social media. It is making a connection between people in a very intimate way. Even if only for brief moment. This is being the seer, not the seen. This is a more subtle act that goes deeper. It shows how much this person knows you and doesn’t want you to miss out. Social media is notorious for self absorption; showing others how much fun you are having. That public display is suspect to me anyway (“Doth protest too much”).

So next time you see something that makes you think of someone – pay to forward. Don’t assume they’ve seen the article. Pass it on and let someone know you’re thinking of them. For real.


  1. Rita on June 23, 2017 at 2:27 pm

    This piece is “write on!” I am always touched when I receive an article forwarded from someone And I love having the opportunity to show others that I am thinking of them as I read and go through my day. Thanks for pointing this out. And had I seen the lemon bar recipe I’d have sent to you too!

  2. Joan on June 25, 2017 at 7:20 pm

    I love how you pointed out how refreshing it is when someone turns the selfie around for a change. It feels so wonderful and validating when a person in your life takes a moment to connect with you and show you that they “see” you . It is a small gesture that goes a long way. It serves you of course but it also feels great for the person sending it. Thanks Doc?

  3. Leslie on August 19, 2017 at 2:42 am

    Anne, when you come to NYC I will bring you some of my homemade lemon bars. I have been told they are the best thing I make!

    • Anne Koplin on August 24, 2017 at 1:53 am

      I will definitely let you know, haven’t had a decent lemon bar in ages. No pressure though, just seeing you would be enough :-)))