A woman praying


I come from a family of worriers. My mom and her twin sister were always “fretting.” Other family members are worriers. My friends are worriers too. I am surrounded by people who worry. They may call it by other names like insomnia, back pain, or fatigue.

I worry about health. I worry about my kids. I worry about my dad. I worry about my friends. Then I worry about my friends’ health, their kids and their dads. I worry about my patients.

I worry when I go to the doctor. I worry about going to the dentist. I worry about falling on ice, getting randomly shot, riding in elevators, car accidents and Corona virus. I worry about not finding a job.

Then there is worry on another level about this country, fires in Australia, Israel, the environment. I’m not going to go there.

I am not alone. Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) is the most common anxiety disorder. It affects more women than men. More than half of older patients with GAD say their symptoms started after age 50. Late-life anxiety is underdiagnosed and undertreated and will have a huge public health impact as the population ages.

Besides the time and energy lost worrying, chronic anxiety is toxic to our bodies. It can lead to depression, suicide, substance abuse and poor quality-of-life. Anxiety is a significant risk factor for death after bypass surgery, stroke, hypertension and coronary artery disease. It is also associated with a higher risk of memory problems.

When your body is in a constant state of “fight or flight” there is an increase in excitatory messages in the brain. Your body is stuck in overdrive. Scientists are trying to understand how this effects the body over time.

For most of us, worrying has become the new normal. We find ways to cope with insightful podcasts and books, self care, alcohol, meditation and yoga. Others benefit from psychotherapy and medications.

I’ve been working on allotting myself only a certain amount of time per day to worry. I sometimes use imagery and dump worries into a body of water, Being present and concentrating on my breath has helped. I try to focus on what is well and good at a particular moment. Does this stuff help? Meh.

By this age we have experienced traumatic events. We know life changes in an instant. We have a solid collection of peeps that we want around us for a long time. We may or may not be afraid of dying but one thing is for sure – we don’t want to miss out.

My goal is not to freak you out about freaking out. This is a reminder to all of us to be kinder to ourselves. We need to give our body what it needs – nourishing food, movement and above all, peace of mind.

“Worry never robs tomorrow of our sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” – Leo F. Buscaglia.

Have a peaceful weekend


4 thoughts on “WORRY

  1. This post is timely and helpful. I’ve had a friend tell me recently that she hears the word ANXIETY almost daily in the community where she lives. A follow-up with more tips on how to deal with would be helpful!

    1. I was “worried” someone would ask for tips, Who knew it would be my used-to-be-favorite sister LOL. Working on it!

  2. Hi Annie,

    I really liked this post and tried to comment when you put it up. Somehow, I failed. (Worrisome!)

    I think this is a super important message: “We need to give our body what it needs – nourishing food, movement and above all, peace of mind.” Also, I loved Leo Buscaglia’s quote.

    People often say “Don’t worry!” But my mom once said to me (and it stuck): Does telling someone not to worry ever work? So when a friend is stressed, I try to offer a something concrete that might actually help, rather than just saying “Don’t worry!”

    I also find I worry less if I have a plan in place for just in case.


    1. Worrisome indeed that you could not post a comment :/ My guy that managed my site has bailed so I am trying to do it alone but it’s not always successful.

      Yes, the worst thing you can tell someone is “Don’t worry”, it’s like telling someone to “Calm down!” which is just awful.

      I find that allotting time for worry is helpful. I allow myself to go with it for a certain time during the day and then can’t revisit the worry place until the next day.

      Also, remembering the breath. Our life force. If my mind is too busy, I try to focus on my breath. When I do, I notice how shallow my breathing is most of the time.

      I think it’s part environment and a big part genetic. There must be some Jewish worry genes that haven’t been mapped out yet…

      Thanks for being an avid L+M reader!

      XO Anne

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