Ask Dr. Annie K: Transition In Parenting

My 11-year-old said (more like yelled,) “Stop telling me what to do!” Wait a second. Isn’t that basically my job to tell him what to do? Any words of wisdom on the transition in parenting, from constantly telling our kids what to do to letting them figure things out on their own?
– Anonymous Reader

Love+Medicine

Transition in parenting, hmm. Let me begin by saying I am not a child psychiatrist so this is not my area of expertise. But I have basic concepts that I believe in and think they would work here.

I also consulted with one of my favorite 11 year olds, to get a take on the situation from a child’s perspective.

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Ask Dr. Annie K: SEX AND FAMILIARITY

I have been with my husband for over 10 years and we love each other very much.. our sex life is not at all what it used to be, pretty much completely gone! I’m not sure if we’ve become to busy that we get wrapped up in everyday living that we forget to take time each together! Is this a sign that the “we” are coming to an end? How do we get back to where we were?
Anonymous Reader

Love+Medicine

Thank you for this very intriguing and challenging question. One that many of us can relate to.

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Guest Blogger: Joan Kantor


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I’m a walker and I adore this form of exercise. I’ll walk in any kind of weather because, as much as a day may look dreary, wet or cold from inside, once I take that very first step, the weather becomes beautiful because I’m in it. I discovered walking for exercise when I was in my twenties. I watched older women walking on the boardwalk at the beach in Florida and I had the revelation that walking can last way into old age.

In fact, over the years, I found that walking keeps me not only fit but strong and sane. Sure, I’ve walked off weight but I’ve also walked off pain and grief and suffering, including the devastating loss of our son being stillborn.

But walking is not what this is post about. I want to share another wonderful discovery I’ve made. As much as I love nature and the glorious outdoors, it’s also easy and fun and rewarding to walk inside. I’m not talking about a treadmill or any other machine. All I do is, instead of sitting on the couch to watch TV, I walk around the couch over and over. That’s it. I move rather than veg and it’s a game changer because you don’t need any equipment or special shoes or even much space. I highly recommend trying it out next time you’re sinking into being a couch potato. Get up and walk instead-no excuses and it’s such a simple, healthy alternative to inertia. Just do it! Good Luck? 

 


Joan Kantor is a Social Worker/Teacher living in Katonah, NY. She is the co-founder of “Talk-The-Walk” which is a program that combines group therapy with exercise. Joan is the proud Mom of 4 sons whose ages range from 28-15. Joan happens to be my first cousin. She is also my friend.

Ask Dr. Annie K: Transitions From Nervous to Excited

I’m about to go through a big change in my life and I’m feeling extremely emotional.
How does one transition themselves from feeling nervous to feeling excited?

Anonymous Reader

Love+Medicine

Really good question. Dealing with transition is universally difficult, no matter how positive you believe the transition will be. As David Foster Wallace once said, “everything I have ever let go of has claw marks on it”.

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Unconditional Love: A Murder-Suicide Mystery


This is a true story. Parental advisory for violent and emotionally charged content.


 

In April 2011, I boarded a flight with my daughter. We were going to visit my eldest daughter living in Australia. We had a layover in Los Angeles. On the Qantas flight in Los Angeles, I received an email from a friend in Israel. She reported that a doctor in Tel Aviv had murdered his girlfriend and then shot himself.

She wrote,

“I hope this has nothing to do with your friend.”

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