Guest Blogger: Joan Kantor


I’m a walker and I adore this form of exercise. I’ll walk in any kind of weather because, as much as a day may look dreary, wet or cold from inside, once I take that very first step, the weather becomes beautiful because I’m in it. I discovered walking for exercise when I was in my twenties. I watched older women walking on the boardwalk at the beach in Florida and I had the revelation that walking can last way into old age.

In fact, over the years, I found that walking keeps me not only fit but strong and sane. Sure, I’ve walked off weight but I’ve also walked off pain and grief and suffering, including the devastating loss of our son being stillborn.

But walking is not what this is post about. I want to share another wonderful discovery I’ve made. As much as I love nature and the glorious outdoors, it’s also easy and fun and rewarding to walk inside. I’m not talking about a treadmill or any other machine. All I do is, instead of sitting on the couch to watch TV, I walk around the couch over and over. That’s it. I move rather than veg and it’s a game changer because you don’t need any equipment or special shoes or even much space. I highly recommend trying it out next time you’re sinking into being a couch potato. Get up and walk instead-no excuses and it’s such a simple, healthy alternative to inertia. Just do it! Good Luck? 


Joan Kantor is a Social Worker/Teacher living in Katonah, NY. She is the co-founder of “Talk-The-Walk” which is a program that combines group therapy with exercise. Joan is the proud Mom of 4 sons whose ages range from 28-15. Joan happens to be my first cousin. She is also my friend.

Ask Dr. Annie K: Transitions From Nervous to Excited

I’m about to go through a big change in my life and I’m feeling extremely emotional.
How does one transition themselves from feeling nervous to feeling excited?

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Unconditional Love: A Murder-Suicide Mystery

This is a true story. Parental advisory for violent and emotionally charged content.


In April 2011, I boarded a flight with my daughter. We were going to visit my eldest daughter living in Australia. We had a layover in Los Angeles. On the Qantas flight in Los Angeles, I received an email from a friend in Israel. She reported that a doctor in Tel Aviv had murdered his girlfriend and then shot himself.

She wrote,

“I hope this has nothing to do with your friend.”

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Why do you think it is that we never forget?

Riding hails us back to early childhood, when learning to ride is a project assigned to a parent night after night. How we feel secure feeling their hand on the back of the seat. How they scream with pride as we ride away from them, down the street, ALONE. Moving by our own power, free to wander.

Some of us, after learning to drive, abandon this activity, relegate it to the young. But there is no question, bike riding is here to stay.

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My Summer List update…

So, a few months ago I shared my 12 goals for summer.
Want to know how I’m doing so far?


1. Learn to skip a stone

I totally did it! I skipped a stone! Many times. Unfortunately, any attempts to snap a picture to capture the moment were unsuccessful. You’ll have to trust me on this. My form needs work. Who knew there was a technique? It starts with finding a very flat stone. I was able to find flat stones along the shore of Lake Michigan quite easily. Then you need to crouch a bit, holding the stone with three fingers. You pretty much know if it’s going to happen the second it rolls off your fingers. Such a great feeling, but my constant practicing may have contributed to my nagging carpal tunnel syndrome (sigh).

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